Break Free From The Busy Bandwagon
As we rumble back towards soon to be busier lives, how can we break free from the busy bandwagon and prioritise what holds real meaning and joy for us, whilst also leaving room for spontaneity and rest?
It's a question I've been pondering and here's what I've found works for me....
Stop Saying Yes…
Do you agree to do things you don’t really want to and regret it later? Rather than saying yes straightaway, press pause. Your time is extremely valuable. Learn to guard it and save it for the things you really want to do. Ask yourself, do I want to do this thing or is it that I feel I ‘should’? Will saying ‘yes’ bring me joy and meaning? Or will I feel dread or regret when it comes around? Saying ‘no’ frees up time for other (more joyful and meaningful) activities.
…Seven Nice Ways to Say No
It takes thought to say no in a way that doesn’t offend people and still makes them feel happy they asked. Giving good no takes practice. Here are some suggestions:
‘I want to do that but can’t right now, how about next month?’
‘That date doesn’t work for me, but it sounds lovely’
‘Thanks - I’ll have to pass on that but maybe so-and-so could help?
‘I appreciate you thinking of me, but I can’t’
‘Thanks for the invitation, but I’m already committed that day’
‘Let me think about it and get back you’
‘I can’t do that, but I could do this…’
Don’t Look Back
Having declined an invitation, focus on the good that comes from saying no, rather than feeling regret or guilt about saying no. Perhaps you’ll be better rested because you didn’t go out for drinks, or you’ll feel less resentful because you let someone else help out. Whatever the case may be, focus on the positive outcome of your effort to give good no.
Micro Rests
Prioritise pockets of rest and activities that refresh you. Schedule in time to read, get creative, listen to a new podcast, sketch, walk, dance or do a yoga practice. I make time most days after lunch to sit and read for 30 minutes or to call a friend.
Go As Slow As You Can Get Away With
Our ‘immediate-reply’ culture is powerful and you have to be strong to change your mindset. Do your best to have ‘off grid’ times where you don’t check emails or social media. Resist reaching for your phone first thing and start your day slowly.
Hold Space
I block off space in my diary to make sure that I don’t over schedule. As well as leaving room for spontaneity (which I love), I also know doing something three nights in a row leaves me feeling depleted and ratty. Know and respect your energy levels.
KISS
Keep it simple sista! I’ll freely admit that I was first in through the doors when The Ivy reopened on Monday and it was heaven. But that doesn’t mean I need to fill my diary with more of the same. I enjoy walking with a friend on Wimbledon Common just as much.
I hope this is helpful - how do you plan to stay off the busy bandwagon?